Mar 22, 2017

40 Questions To Ask If You Really Want To Get To Know Someone

I have recently rejoined the world of blogging and joined up with a pretty amazing blog support group. I thought now is a good time to let you all know a little bit about me. 

1. What’s your philosophy in life? Don't judge people for the choices they make when you don't know the options they had to choose from. 
2. What’s the one thing you would like to change about yourself? I am a HUGE procrastinator! I hate that about myself. 
3. Are you religious or spiritual? Spiritual 
4. Do you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert? I am definitely an extrovert to a fault 
5. Which parent are you closer to and why? I plead the fifth 
6. What was the best phase in your life? I would say that it was when my son was born but I feel like I'm currently in the best phase of my life. I feel like I am finally where I was meant to be. 
7. What was the worst phase in your life? I feel like to pick one is difficult. I've had quite the journey. I will say that my 20's were difficult for me.  I was lost and searching for something in all the wrong places.  When Jake was born visually impaired and I didn't know what his future looked like and also when I went through my separation and divorce. 
8. Is what you’re doing now what you always wanted to do growing up? When I was little I wanted to be either a photographer or a zoologist. I am a Human Resources Manager. Lol. I love what I do though. I still love photography. 
9. What makes you feel accomplished? I feel accomplished when I effectively complete what I set out to do. Especially since I am a huge procrastinator. 
10. What’s your favorite book/movie of all time and why did it speak to you so much? Too many to name. This would be a topic of a post all by itself. 
11. What is a relationship deal breaker for you? Dishonesty. If you lie to me you don't respect me. 
12. Are you more into looks or brains?  Brains but I was lucky to find someone with both. Playing trivia crack with Mr. J is not always fun for me. 
13. Would you ever take back someone who cheated? Nope
14. How do you feel about sharing your password with your partner? Of course! No secrets. 
15. When do you think a person is ready for marriage? What works for one doesn't work for the other so I can't say. 
16. What kind of parent do you think you will be? I am a parent and I am better at it than I ever thought I would be. I come off as an over protective Mama Bear but I am my sons advocate. Until he is able to advocate for himself I am his voice. 
17. What would you do if your parents didn’t like your partner? My parents are non judgmental people so if they do not like them there is a good reason. 
18. Who is that one person you can talk to about just anything? Mr. J of course. I also have a lot of very close friends that I trust with deepest secrets. 
19. Do you usually stay friends with your exes? Nope. They are exes for a reason. 
20. Have you ever lost someone close to you? Way too many times. 
21. If you are in a bad mood, do you prefer to be left alone or have someone to cheer you up? I prefer to be cheered up. 
22. What’s an ideal weekend for you? I spend my weekend in my Happy Place
23. What do you think of best friends of the opposite sex? I will be honest. I am not cool with it. Sorry. 
24. Do you judge a book by its cover? I am the least judgmental person I know. I think that comes from experience because I will say I used to be the most judgmental person I know.  
25. Are you confrontational? Yes, but I like to think for just cause. 
26. When was the last time you broke someone’s heart? I will only say one word. Divorced!
27. Would you relocate for love? Yes, I am in a little over a month. 
28. Did you ever write a journal? No
29. What are you most thankful for? My son. He is my bright light on my darkest days. 
30. Do you believe in second chances? Depends on the situation.
31. What’s the one thing that people always misunderstand about you? Resting bitch face doesn't mean I am a bitch.  
32. What is your idea of a perfect vacation? Hawaii is my favorite place in the world. You step off the plane and smell flowers. 
33. What did your past relationship teach you? Don't settle for less than you deserve. 
34. What are your thoughts on online dating or tinder? I have a confession that I am not ready to disclose. Stay tuned. 
35. What’s on your bucket list this year? Don't laugh but I want to get a couple goats. I also want to finish the kitchen, go on a vacation with Mr. J and plant a vegetable garden. 
36. When have you felt your biggest adrenaline rush? I love rock climbing. I don't do it that often but when I do I get a huge adrenaline rush.
37. What is the craziest thing you’ve ever done and would you do it again? I have a checkered past. Can I plead the fifth again??
38. If a genie granted you 3 wishes right now, what would you wish for? 1. For my son to live a happy life despite his challenges with his visual impairment. 2. To live a long healthy life with Mr. J 3. For my parents to live a long and healthy life. 
39. What’s your biggest regret in life? Not getting my 4 year degree. I have my 2 year and I have had to fight pretty hard to get into the position I am in in my career.  I will get it! It is a goal I have set for myself. 
40. What do you think about when you’re by yourself? Honestly, when I am alone I think about how I want to be with Jake and Mr. J. They both bring me such happiness. 


Charlotte Klein said...

Awww, what a wonderful list <3 I had to do a double take on the "I want a couple of goats" line. I was like, "wait... does that say what I think it says?!" Also I think that's amazing. I am a huge animal lover and wish I lived on a big ol' farm so I could have a rescue sanctuary and take in all the animals.

And yes re: dishonesty. I have a hard time getting beyond that one too. I love your #1. I think part of that really has to do with accepting people for who they are, entirely and not casting judgement--because as you say, you never really know a person's struggles <3 Thanks for this!

Bethie The Boo said...

I would LOVE to have goats. I think we might actually raise chickens starting next year, no joke. It was so fun reading more about you and I can tell that you are an AWESOME mom. You are an inspiration!

Shooting Stars Mag said...

Love this post! It's fun to get to know the blogger a bit more, and these questions are kind of fun. Yeah, dishonesty and cheating are a no go. I'm not a parent NOW but I do want to be a mom someday and I think I'd be a good one. :)


jenn said...

number thirty-one. AMEN.

Krysten Quiles said...

Haha #37... inquiring minds want to know!

Krysten Quiles said...

Oh P.S. May I borrow?